Playing Hide & Seek: My Alopecia Journey

Playing Hide & Seek: My Alopecia Journey

We hide when we are ashamed, when we’re scared, or when we don’t feel like we are going to be accepted. We hide for fear of judgment; we hide from our past mistakes. We hide our true selves, believing we aren’t good enough, smart enough, lovable enough or worthy enough. It’s a cycle that can root itself deep in our soul, and if we aren’t careful, the cycle of hiding will even continue within the confines of the sacred union of marriage. Hiding limits true intimacy with those closest to us, so it’s a stronghold that needs to be addressed before entering marriage.

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Losing My Religion

Losing My Religion

Because grace was seldom shown to me growing up, my view of God was distorted. I saw Him only as someone to be worshipped and feared. I was more scared of falling and failing than I was eager to know Him as the gracious, loving, and forgiving Father He is. Even into my adulthood, when I joined a different type of church community, I was still stuck in the fire and brimstone mindset. The remnants of legalism still laid deep within. I had to change how I saw God.

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Three Things To Do Differently in 2017

Three Things To Do Differently in 2017

In just the first week that we have been in the year 2017, I’ve walked past fitness centers, churches, and juice bars that seem to be a lot more crowded than they were the last week of 2016.  On social media I’ve also encountered numerous empowering slogans accompanied by elaborate vision boards. Everyone is looking to start the New Year off as a new person, but what exactly does that entail? 

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Dismantling the Perfectionist Syndrome

Dismantling the Perfectionist Syndrome

Have you seen any of those symptoms in your own life? Do you find yourself wanting to move forward but won’t allow yourself to do so unless everything comes together first?  Sometimes the coming together of a thing can only happen when your first step is to simply trust God to provide the resources and support you need along the way.  

If you need encouragement in this area, read on…

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3 Ways We Struggle to Trust God

3 Ways We Struggle to Trust God

We’ve finally made it to the halfway point of 2016.  Some of you may have started out the New Year with promises of a “new year, new me,” but as we are now in the month of June, what is your life really reflecting?  What goals have you met and what new ventures have you stepped into? 

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Understanding the Blessing in Counterfeits

Understanding the Blessing in Counterfeits

Nobody wants counterfeit money, but we often run after counterfeit relationships.  Counterfeit relationships can either cripple your walk with Christ or serve as a blessing. The blessing is often found in the lesson learned, but as a follower of Christ, it is up to you to not only determine what the outcome of your engagement with counterfeits will be, but to also use discernment. Not everyone is meant for our good.

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Becoming a woman of FAVOR

Becoming a woman of FAVOR

Throughout the course of this blog, I have shared a lot about the lessons I have learned during my season of singleness. This might tempt you to believe that I have it all together, but I still have my struggles like anyone else. I still struggle with loneliness, self-doubt and focusing on my time table over God’s.  This always happens when I take my eyes off of Him to focus on what I think I lack. 

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Bag Lady

Bag Lady

One of the most detrimental things we can do to sabotage our future relationship with our spouse is to carry unnecessary emotional baggage in the here and now, especially the baggage of un-forgiveness.  It impedes our growth, stifles our relationships, and puts unrealistic expectations on people to fill a void that should be turned over to God.  As unglamorous as this topic may be for some, un-forgiveness may be the very thing that is blocking you from receiving the full manifestation of God's blessing in your life.

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The Online Single's Conference

The Online Single's Conference

My friends and the Co-Founders of MarriedandYoung.com, Jamal and Natasha Miller, are hosting a fully online event called, The Online Single’s Conference (TOSC).  It is a 2 day LIVE conference with over 15 sessions to transform your single season by helping you heal from your past, make the most of your present, and prepare you for your future. 

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My Valentine's Day Message to You!

My Valentine's Day Message to You!

I was driving in my car the other day when a combination of emotions from that morning and all the unanswered questions I had from God began to boil up inside of me.  The next thing I knew, Worry had entered my car and was sitting beside me.  But this wasn't the first time that Worry had been a passenger in my vehicle.  It's actually more like Worry is a close companion of mine.

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Who Are You?

Who Are You?

People show you who they are every day. Well, at least they show you who they want you to see.  They show you their mask that portrays whatever character they want to be or whatever game they want to play. One might say that I'm a pro at spotting a good game. I'm a New Yorker. Game spotting is part of my DNA (smile).

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Resolving to Live 2016 with Purpose

Resolving to Live 2016 with Purpose

As I sat with a friend and complained about how hard the latter part of 2015 had been for me, she listened for a while before gently responding, "Maybe your 2015 would not have been so hard if you had just done what God instructed you to do." Ouch! You see, God had called me to tell my story and create this blog, but I was too focused on my own limitations.  

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